This piece is awesome! I relate so much to the boob and skin struggles. I've been going back and forth between the pill and IUD, but turns out that you also need to think about the "rebound" time for when you do decide that you want to make a baby... it's overwhelming.

You are wrong about success.

I’ve learned recently that success is not what I thought it was. Not in the New Age “redefine success” mindfulness type of way. But in the ancient definition of the word “success” type of way.

For years I’ve been chasing the very specific modern definition of success (don’t judge me… you’ve done it too). Success looked like fame, popularity, achievement, financial goals, and global impact. I was striving but never achieving. As Type 3 (achiever) on the Enneagram, it was slowly killing me.

So I went down the mindfulness path. And it definitely helped. But…

Have you received this email?

Hello,

Thanks for applying to this position. We will review your application and get back to you if you are selected for interviews.

Sincerely,

HR Team

I bet you have.

And if you have, you are familiar with these feelings:

“Now what?”

“How long do I have to wait?”

“Am I ever gonna hear from these people?”

Until suddenly you get a random phone call from the company. You are thrust headfirst into an interview process that you know nothing about!

You are excited, but you wish you knew more about what to expect.

Well, this article is here to…

Does the end of the year cause you anxiety?

It sure does for me. When November comes rushing at me, I start thinking about the long winter, Christmas, and the New Year. Bleh.

Although I won’t be upset that 2020 is over, I feel like this year really ran away with me. The fact that it is November again (weren’t we just here?) is blowing my mind.

If you are anything like me and my husband, November is when you start to reflect on the last items on your yearly bucket list. And then you muster up as much of your remaining energy to achieve them. …

Have you ever felt stuck in your job? Or you’re thinking about growing in your career, but you’re not sure which direction to go in?

You might be thinking “can I actually switch my career?” or “how do I take my career to the next level?”

If so, you have probably thought about your transferrable skills. In fact, you may have found one of those handy-dandy online lists!

But here’s the thing… everyone uses identical lists and they pull out a few skills that “sound good”. They pick the ones that employers “want” to hear. It’s a trap! You end…

Have you been let down by the self-proclaimed “driven” employee that starts at your company and doesn’t perform well? You know, the ones who are “highly motivated”.

I bet you believe that the “motivated” candidates are the only ones worth hiring… but let me guess, this isn’t working for you, right?

So help me understand, why are North Americans obsessed with motivation?

Barely a day goes by when we don’t use motivation (or lack thereof) as a reason or excuse for our behaviours.

“I’m just not motivated to work out today”

“I’m not going to make that sales call”

“I just don’t feel like it”

You’ve said those things before. I…

“I’ve been applying to hundreds of job postings but making no progress. I’m really frustrated.”

“The job market is so bad at the moment, I’m worried that I will never find a job.”

“I don’t want to work in this field anymore, but I have no idea what I should do instead.”

Does this sound familiar? Well, you’re not alone. I hear these complaints from my clients.

All. The. Time.

Making career choices can feel like a frustrating and anxiety-producing battle at the best of times. When you add a pandemic, it can feel like drowning.

The good news is, you can’t be certain about your future

The pressure to “know”…

You are finishing an interview at a great company for a position that you are very excited about. It aligns well with your interests and challenges your professional skills.

You are reaching the end of the interview process.

They ask if you are pursuing any other opportunities. They check your availability to start. Everything is leading towards a job offer until they ask for the contact info for your two most recent supervisors as references.

Oh no, they are going to find out your secret!

You are ineligible for rehire.

What does “ineligible for rehire” mean?

The implications of being ineligible for rehire will depend on…